Aloneness In Relationship

Loneliness and aloneness, are two states of the same energy – like poison and nectar. When there is no outlet for loneliness it becomes poison – self-destructive. However, when in a loving relationship, aloneness is the nectar that sweetens passion, caring, and respect; allowing love to flourish. Love’s beginnings always arise out of aloneness, never from loneliness.

With love, one is never lonely, even when one is alone. In a loving relationship, the earth and the sky are no longer separate. Like the tic and toc of time, the rhythms of love are strengthened by the counterpoints of the relationship. Nurtured by both togetherness and aloneness. True lovers relish solitude as much as companionship. Being alone is as beautiful as being together.

In the beginning of a new relationship, it is often difficult to distinguish between being alone and being lonely. Especially if one has been without a mate for an extended time. One day it seems we don’t spend enough time together to allay that lonely feeling. The next day it seems, there not sufficient time alone to refresh and rejuvenate for passion’s next quest. Eventually, however, lovers establish a syncopated rhythm of connectedness. They learn to sense when their partner needs to be alone. Knowing it doesn’t mean rejection. Realizing that aloneness is essential to maintaining and intensifying connectedness and nourishing the flowering relationship. When your love wants to be alone, do not torture her with your presence. If you leave her alone, she will return with overflowing love and a renewed spirit.

With love, one is never lonely, even when one is alone. In a loving relationship, the earth and the sky are no longer separate. Like the tic and toc of time, the rhythms of love are strengthened by the counterpoints of the relationship. Nurtured by both togetherness and aloneness. Being alone is as beautiful as being together.

Love is respectful and settles into its own synchronicity. It requires no declarations. Love is best expressed intuitively, passionately, and in silence. And, the greatest moments of silence are those that follow peaks of passion.

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