How to Love Me

By Larrywomack

I continue to live a charmed life. Other than not having my wife of 40 years here to share it with me, this is my best time. My daughters have matured delightfully and each have loving husbands and beautiful smart children. My grandchildren laugh a lot when they are with me. Life is good.

Retired from myriad careers January 2006, I have sufficient income to enjoy the present and the future. I currently have five earned frequent flier round trips on Southwest to go wherever. My days are spent giving away the advice that people once paid big bucks for and in writing what I want to write instead of what my publisher wants to sell. I enjoy entertaining friends and lovers; cooking and listening to the music of others or my own; telling stories and making outrageous observations; creating situation-appropriate moods; watching cinema and television; listening to and reading the latest tomes; and engaging in intelligent and frivolous discourse.

I have always preferred the company of women to men. Men are boring and mostly talk about sports and boobs. Never good at sports, I chose to be good at women. It is my joy and sometimes my curse. Most women find me charming and pleasant to be around because they intuitively sense that I genuinely like them, and truly enjoy the pleasure of their company.

Through trial and error, I’ve learned that the characteristic that women appreciate most in a man is thoughtfulness. Not the remembering important dates kind of thoughtfulness, but the remembering what type of dressing they like on their salad kind. Women want to be asked about how things went at the gynecologist that day and other life experiences. Little things.

Thoughtfulness is my most important personality characteristic. My male friends will attest to that as well. Thoughtfulness supplemented by a near-photographic memory that allows me to specifically address the other person’s desires or needs when appropriate. 
I like being loved by a special woman. So if you are considering falling in love with me, here is some information you will find useful:

 

I like an audience; preferable an audience of one, two, or three in descending importance

I have a background as communicator – verbal, written, graphic, and musical. I have had my share of communication accolades. Never recognized as the very best at anything, I am often considered the best in the room at the time. Laugh at my musings. Applaud my antics. Be my audience of one but feel free to take me on at anytime. I like spirited, educated and intelligent women with a sense of humor, who are tuned into culture.

 

I like small surprises

I have been surprised many times by women. Some of those surprises were sweet; some were lovely; some provocative; and some were very educational. All were appreciated. By surprises, I mostly mean little things like taking me to dinner without telling me where; playing some music that I might like or will at least expand my musical horizon; suggesting an unusual or provocative movie to watch together; or bringing me a small gift, like flowers or a candle or a dance.

 

I like going to nice restaurants and small entertainment venues

I prefer small bistros to most chain restaurants, preferably places that do not have toothpicks by the cash register. I like great jazz, ethnic, and classical performances but abhor modern country and Christian music, especially those writers’ night’s things. An occasional visit to a comedy venue to hear someone I know I’ll like is also acceptable. As are art galleries and museums.

 

I love being loved.

I have only experienced intimate soul-searching loved with two women in my life – Diane and another lady who shall remain nameless for obvious reasons (you know who you are). I have, however, loved many women who have loved me in return; each to a different degree; in a different way; and for a mutual benefit.

Since becoming a widower, I have learned to be careful in verbally expressing love for a woman until that woman and I share an understanding of love. If you act like you love me and think I’m not getting the signal, you are mistaken. When, or if, I love you with deep passion, you’ll know it without having to guess.

 

I like expressing my passions in private

I have never had nor given anyone the need to prove publicly that my companion and I are an item. I’m not going to start doing that at this point in my life. Public displays of affection by the person I am with or from any persons in my presence make me uncomfortable. My private actions, however, will speak for themselves.

I like women who are comfortable in their skin and not afraid to express themselves in ways that please me. High heels are appropriate bedroom attire.  When in public, however, I like to comment on interesting women. It is; therefore, best to point the pretty ones out to me than to be jealousy when I ogle them

 

I like to learn from the woman I am with

You can teach me something about life, love, commerce, beauty, or whatever. I will appreciate it, appropriate it, and give you attribution. Everything I know I learned from someone else. I like being with a woman who reads at least one book each year from the New York Times Best Seller List and understands the cartoons in the New Yorker.

Bring knowledge and information to the table and I will raise a toast to you. I like to hear about fashion, food, wine, music, commerce and current affairs, especially from a woman.

 

I like courteous women

I like women who are aware of the appropriate behavior in public places and consider the feelings of other in the room, especially those there to serve. 
I am courteous to everyone most of the time like I never carry my cell phone into a restaurant or any other place when I am with a woman.

 

Conclusion

If you want me to love you at some level, consider all of the above before embarking on a relationship with me and we will both find happiness.